Last night I was wiping blood off my 15 year old daughter’s face. It ran from her nose down over her mouth and chin and I hoped that I wasn’t too rough and hurting her while I did it, but I had to hurry.
I had to get back down the steps and be ready to grab the stool out of the ring and sit on it when the bell rang. You have to sit, her coach told me. You have to sit on the stool, you can’t get up until the round is over if you’re going to work the corner.
It was my daughter’s first amateur boxing match. Her first entry in her “book.”
We were at a middle school in Albuquerque… a part of town where most of the students are Hispanic and most of the business signs are in Vietnamese. I suppose there are worse neighborhoods but this was far from the best. South of Central and tucked up against the Air Force base in a “you can’t get there from here” sort of way.
When the fights began the announcer said something rather interesting. The principal of the school had had to fight to keep boxing going, and this particular event on, against disapproval from APS. They gave her an award and everyone clapped and cheered.
It seems that someone decided that boxing is violent.
It is.
It’s sort of shocking, actually, everyone cheering on two kids beating the snot out of each other. The blood. The hugging.
Oh, wait. Yeah, the hugging. The “here, let me help you with your ribbon”-”no no, let me hand you your trophy” expectation of good sportsmanship. The respect for any kid who steps in the ring, just for the bravery of stepping in the ring.
The higher up mucky-mucks at APS (one of those urban mega-districts that are, quite frankly, an offense against nature itself) might not think teaching violence is appropriate. The principal of this middle school in a not-so-good part of town knows it is. Her club is going gang-busters.
At least, judging by the number of people last night wearing club t-shirts.
I don’t know what all is going on with the politics. I’m not sure I even want to. But it’s a sad thing that so many don’t seem to recognize that *violence* isn’t bad. Viewing violence itself as the problem is simplistic and wrong. Fixing the problem of violence isn’t going to fix much when violence isn’t the problem.
The announcer last night often talked of warriors.
Warriors are as far as possible from criminals. And it doesn’t really matter that the call to be warriors is symbolic and not actual. The difference is… do you learn violence to be a protector or do you learn violence to be a predator? A warrior learns violence to be a protector.
Being able to fight is a good thing. Being able to face it, to step up to it and do it, is a good thing. Boxing may appeal to the same young people who might find other blood-sport appealing… particularly those macho young men, but girls too. I don’t think that I’ll ever watch boxing for fun. I don’t find it entertaining. Watching. Maybe when I know more I’ll enjoy watching for the technical aspects. I’ve trained in karate long enough to go “oh, look what he just did” when watching certain types of fights. But I don’t think I’ll ever find this sort of sport entertaining.
So what.
I can say that it won’t bother me at all to work the corner for my daughter if I’m asked to do it again. I’ll wash the blood out of her mouth guard and the blood and snot off her face, give her water and hold the spit bucket. Then I’ll wisk the stool out of the ring and sit.
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