Last night I was wiping blood off my 15 year old daughter’s face. It ran from her nose down over her mouth and chin and I hoped that I wasn’t too rough and hurting her while I did it, but I had to hurry.
I had to get back down the steps and be ready to grab the stool out of the ring and sit on it when the bell rang. You have to sit, her coach told me. You have to sit on the stool, you can’t get up until the round is over if you’re going to work the corner.
It was my daughter’s first amateur boxing match. Her first entry in her “book.”
We were at a middle school in Albuquerque… a part of town where most of the students are Hispanic and most of the business signs are in Vietnamese. I suppose there are worse neighborhoods but this was far from the best. South of Central and tucked up against the Air Force base in a “you can’t get there from here” sort of way.
When the fights began the announcer said something rather interesting. The principal of the school had had to fight to keep boxing going, and this particular event on, against disapproval from APS. They gave her an award and everyone clapped and cheered.
It seems that someone decided that boxing is violent.
It is.
It’s sort of shocking, actually, everyone cheering on two kids beating the snot out of each other. The blood. The hugging.
Oh, wait. Yeah, the hugging. The “here, let me help you with your ribbon”-”no no, let me hand you your trophy” expectation of good sportsmanship. The respect for any kid who steps in the ring, just for the bravery of stepping in the ring.
The higher up mucky-mucks at APS (one of those urban mega-districts that are, quite frankly, an offense against nature itself) might not think teaching violence is appropriate. The principal of this middle school in a not-so-good part of town knows it is. Her club is going gang-busters.
At least, judging by the number of people last night wearing club t-shirts.
I don’t know what all is going on with the politics. I’m not sure I even want to. But it’s a sad thing that so many don’t seem to recognize that *violence* isn’t bad. Viewing violence itself as the problem is simplistic and wrong. Fixing the problem of violence isn’t going to fix much when violence isn’t the problem.
The announcer last night often talked of warriors.
Warriors are as far as possible from criminals. And it doesn’t really matter that the call to be warriors is symbolic and not actual. The difference is… do you learn violence to be a protector or do you learn violence to be a predator? A warrior learns violence to be a protector.
Being able to fight is a good thing. Being able to face it, to step up to it and do it, is a good thing. Boxing may appeal to the same young people who might find other blood-sport appealing… particularly those macho young men, but girls too. I don’t think that I’ll ever watch boxing for fun. I don’t find it entertaining. Watching. Maybe when I know more I’ll enjoy watching for the technical aspects. I’ve trained in karate long enough to go “oh, look what he just did” when watching certain types of fights. But I don’t think I’ll ever find this sort of sport entertaining.
So what.
I can say that it won’t bother me at all to work the corner for my daughter if I’m asked to do it again. I’ll wash the blood out of her mouth guard and the blood and snot off her face, give her water and hold the spit bucket. Then I’ll wisk the stool out of the ring and sit.
I think people who are schooled in violence are much more apt to know how to restrain themselves.
Getting a gun, a CCW, and taking a class, as well as semi-constant practice, has certainly done that for me. I’ve always been taught to avoid conflict, and being capable of violence has only reinforced that for me.
Great insights, Synova. Your post reminds of Bill Whittle’s “Tribes” (which you’ve probably read before) and how every society is made up basically of sheepdogs (warriors) and sheep (citizens). He based that very excellent essay on a story told by Lt. Colonel Dave Grossman, which Whittle retells:
I’ve thought that gun clubs in some of the areas that have gun crime problems would be an excellent, if counter-intuitive, plan.
That and Jr. ROTC and other similar programs run by police and other volunteers.
Firearm safety training and the opportunity to learn and to shoot weapons in a controlled place would be good, I think. Very good for those young people who might get into the warped gun culture on the streets where most information about guns is learned from movies.
It would give them something that involved high levels of skill, trust, and power. Something that could be taken away if they screw up.
I think that giving boys (particularly) from a hyper-masculine culture an acceptable way to be hyper-masculine would be a very very good plan.
Work with it instead of against it.
(I had gun safety training hosted by the American Legion in the summer after 6th grade.)
What’s the Olympic event where you cross country ski and then shoot? Most skiing around here is down-hill, but there *is* skiing. I bet training for that would really motivate a whole lot of urban kids.
The biathlon is what you’re thinking about… http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biathlon
sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs
I’ve always put that as, prey, predator, and protector, but same concept.
Though teachers must be sensitive to the students needs and respectful to each individual, they must also act with authority and assertively carry out lessons. They must create a learning atmosphere that the kids can take seriously and not as an extension of recess. As
we have discussed in our Educational Psychology class, teachers must approach each lesson promptly and have focused goals. Objectives must be stated clearly and the teacher must create a serious yet entertaining atmosphere. All of these rules hold true in urban schools yet there is more emphasis on authoritative verbal commands. Urban school children ignore indirect commands an don’t pay attention unless the instructor has a serious tone. These children can sense fear easily, so it is important to approah lessons
with confidence and poise.
==========================================================
nancy
<a href=”http://www.legalx.net”>California Dui</a>
Auto-bot? Searching on urban schools? Because I betcha “nancy” would have an aneurysm if she actually read my post.